If you haven't read that book Educated by Tara Westover yet, it's a true story about how she recovered from a false identity that was forced on her when she was too young to have the skills to fight it off.
Among many difficult realities that she struggled with in her Mormon survivalist upbringing in Idaho, one of the most detrimental was a belief that any outward expression of romantic interest toward another was going against God's will.
It stopped her from being able to connect and move forward with people that she not only had feelings for, but who were true allies for her in a difficult time.
Every time she wanted to take a step forward, she recoiled because she couldn't offend her deep-seated religious training.
We're only able to act in terms of our identity, or who we believe ourselves to be.
For us Meniere's warriors, it shows up the second we have that diagnosis, that special name for that special set of symptoms.
Once we have that, it's easy to go around in life with the identity of a sick person.
The name of the disease is proof that we are sick. Being told that it's incurable is more proof that we will always be sick, and there's nothing we can do about it.
Just like Tara, who wasn't able to form important relationships because her identity wouldn't let her, you and I can't move toward authentic healing and well-being if we carry around a disease identity that pulls us backward.
You have to believe that you are the kind of person who can achieve good health and well-being.
Be careful of these kinds of statements:
• Making sure we drink enough water "because we have Meniere's disease".
• Trying to lower stress "because we're sick".
• Being careful around the Holidays, "because we have a disease" and "nobody else does".
How you talk to yourself matters.
If you catch yourself using disease language when you talk to yourself, I invite you to write down the statement on sheet of paper so you can see it in physical form.
And then I invite you to change the sentence, making sure you remove any words like Meniere's, or Disease, or incurable, or condition, and replace them with "I am going forward with ever-increasing health and well-being.
Sing it like a song worth singing.
Speaking of increasing health and well-being, we are gathering this Saturday, December 15, at 10 a.m. CST over a FaceBook Live to talk about protecting our health and well-being in a world that seems a little crazy.
What do you say to people? How do you get by at your job? What do you say to family if they give you the eye when you decide to stay home instead of go to three different shopping malls in one day?
Be in the Club - the Meniere's Acceptance Club - this Saturday by 10 a.m. CST. Bring your stories and concerns and questions.
Here's the link to join if you're not there already:
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